Generosity:

We are filled with joy

Not only is generosity a central element in spiritual traditions, scientific studies demonstrate that generosity contributes to our well-being by strengthening relationships and pro-social behaviors.

The authors share stories of memorable acts of generosity from across the globe, including recollections of a neurosurgeon in California, a mother in South African townships, employees of Japanese companies, and environmental protesters in New York city. The authors are careful to stress that generosity comes from an attitude we adopt, not from the wealth we possess. Generosity, they posit, demands that we resist the competitive values of the modern world and instead recognize our need to depend on other human beings. The concept of generosity encompasses the other pillars of joy and captures the spirit, the generosity of spirit, with which the Dalai Lama and the Archbishop approach their lives.

Our book says that it is in giving that we receive. So I would hope that people would recognize in themselves that it is when we are closed in on ourselves that we tend to be miserable. It is when we grow in self-forgetfulness -- in a remarkable way I mean we discover that we are filled with joy.

- The Archbishop, Book of Joy, p. 263

Discussion Questions

Did you know that the Dead Sea doesn’t pass water out? How does this metaphor resonate with you? Can you think of similar examples when not reciprocating or not giving results in harm or loss? (p 265)

How would you begin to talk about your sense of purpose? When do you feel valued or needed by others? Consider your purpose with this 15 minute activity: Affirming Important Values.

How would you begin to express how the competitiveness in our modern world acts as a deterrent to generosity? How have you seen competitiveness represented as a valuable attribute in your experiences?

How have you seen generosity represented as a valuable attribute?

How would you respond to the question about protecting oneself when working in service of others? “How can we help the world heal and still find joy in our own life?”

How do you imagine we might educate youth about compassion and counteract greed?

The Dalai Lama and the Archbishop discuss the fact that we face many global hardships yet they maintain a sense of hope. How do you react to this perspective? What questions might you ask them given the opportunity?

Why is it difficult to trust that one person’s actions might have an impact on the pressing challenges facing humanity?

How would you begin to express how generosity incorporates all of the pillars of joy?

What is a memorable gift that you either gave or received? What makes it so meaningful to you?

Activities

Watch and listen to the Archbishop and the Dalai Lama discuss generosity:

Learn more about the Science of Generosity from the Greater Good Science Center.

Read Seven Tips for Fostering Generosity from the Greater Good Magazine.

Explore 2022 World Happiness Report

Guided practice: Purpose Practice: Core Values from Healthy Minds Innovations.